The path to taking back your control starts here.
Navigating separation & divorce shouldn’t be done alone.
We are stronger, and braver, together.
About Danielle…
I am a specialist separation and divorce coach for women in Australia.
I work with women who have concerns about the way that their partner or former partner behaves, and the way in which this behaviour might cause problems with separating and/or co-parenting.
I provide my clients with specialised strategic guidance, resources, tools and support to take back their control with less confusion, and importantly to maintain forward momentum with their separation and divorce with greater certainty and confidence.
Part of my past training has included working with renowned US author and advocate, Tina Swithin (known for her work in the space of narcissistic abuse).* I am the first Australian to be certified by Tina in the high-conflict divorce coaching space, and part of my training involved learning from guest lecturers, including world renowned experts Dr Ramani Durvasula and Rebecca Zung.
*Have you thought that your current or former partner may be a “narcissist”, or perhaps may have ADHD, are Bipolar or something else that can present in a similar way to Narcissistic Personality Disorder? Do they often seem emotionally immature, and incapable of compromise or being reasonable? These characteristics and behaviours are also common in many non-disordered entitled abusers. I have extensive experience helping clients to navigate these situations.
I am passionate about helping to make separation and divorce coaching affordable for Australian women.
Afterpay is available for 30 minute and one hour consultations.
Please note, free Discovery Calls are not being offered for the remainder of 2024.
If you would like to work with me you are warmly invited to book a paid consultation.
“Coaching with Danielle has helped me to carefully plan my separation from my controlling husband. There were so many things that I would have never have thought to do or put in place if it wasn’t for Danielle’s support.
My former husband has blamed me for so many years that I still sometimes doubt that things were as bad as I remember. Danielle is a fantastic sounding board every time I start to doubt myself or my reality. I am so thankful that my psychologist referred me to Danielle!”
“My lawyer could see that I was struggling emotionally and suggested that I connect with Danielle. Working with Danielle has been exactly what I have needed. I’m so much calmer every time I need to speak with my lawyer since working with Danielle. My lawyer has commented on how much better I will present in court, and my family members have noticed that I’m more positive in general now. Thank you Danielle!”
“Danielle’s not a lawyer, but she connects with lawyers and barristers and has a good sense of what patterns are going on in the court system, including potential outcomes in terms of things like parenting orders - I know this because my lawyer referred me to Danielle.
The fact that my experienced family lawyer spoke so highly of Danielle was enough for me. After the Discovery Call I knew I needed Danielle on my team. Don’t get me wrong, my lawyer is great, but her expertise is the law and telling me my legal options - Danielle is the one who helps me get clear on what path is aligned with the outcome I’m hoping for, and also helps me to see my options with a strategic lens. Also, there are some things that lawyers just don’t tell you. Danielle is honest and to-the-point, and very skilled at helping me to see the big picture. Also, I just feel better since working with her! Thank you Danielle!”
“I first discovered Danielle by listening to The Post-Separation Abuse podcast. Listening to Danielle speak about things that other professionals avoid, and then reading Danielle’s website, I finally felt truly seen and heard.
I booked a Discovery Call because I knew the Coaching Package would be the right path for me, and Danielle was exactly the same as she is on her podcast! I felt comfortable chatting with her straight away - she’s like a coach/counsellor/therapist/lawyer/strategist all rolled into one and I knew I had to have her in my corner.
If you have experienced any kind of control in your relationship, and there are still lingering problems after separation, Danielle is the person you need. ”
How to work with me
Initial steps
Book an initial 30 minute or 1 hour call to discuss your situation, and learn more about how I can help you.
30 minute Coaching Call
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A 30 minute private telephone or video call with Danielle.
This consultation is perfect for you if:
• You want to learn more about the coaching and support that Danielle provides, and if her services are the right fit for you and your situation.
• You aren’t sure if you will need ongoing support.
If you want or need more support after this initial 30 minute call, you can book additional standalone calls, or level-up to the Coaching Subscription or one of the Coaching Packages.
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$100
Payable securely at the time of booking, in full or via AfterPay.
*Don’t worry, you can easily reschedule your appointment if needed without losing your payment.
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Use the button to quickly and easily book your 30 minute coaching call.
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One hour Coaching Call
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A one hour private telephone or video call with Danielle.
This one-off session is perfect for you if:
• You aren’t sure if you will need ongoing support.
• You have one main issue to address in your separation, divorce or co-parenting journey.
• You are in the early stages of planning separation.
• You want to more clearly understand the steps of separation and don’t want to pay big bucks to a lawyer for just the dry legal side of things.
Whilst Danielle doesn’t give legal advice, she can support you to better understand your general position with finances or parenting, and can assist you to understand the necessary ‘next steps’. (This can be very helpful if you have a partner who is telling what he is ‘entitled’ to, and you feel confused and uncertain).
If you want or need more support after this initial one hour call, you can book additional standalone calls, or level-up to the Coaching Subscription or one of the Coaching Packages.
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$200
Payable securely at the time of booking, in full or via AfterPay.
*Don’t worry, you can easily reschedule your appointment if needed without losing your payment.
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Use the button to quickly and easily book your one hour coaching call.
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More support
After your initial call you will have the option to level-up to the Coaching Subscription, or a Coaching Package.
The Coaching Subscription
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A monthly coaching subscription is a great choice for those who know that they will need ongoing support for a period of time.
Your Coaching Subscription includes:
• 90 minutes of 1:1 coaching calls each month, either booked as 3 x 30 minute calls, 1 x 1 hour calls and 1 x 30 minute call, or 1 x 90 minute call.
• Access to the Stronger Braver Together Membership while your coaching subscription is active.
The membership includes:
- Direct message support via The Membership app.
- Access to information and resources.
- Secure conversations with other women who ‘get it’ (if you choose to participate).
- All of the above in a secure online support and resource hub, available via desktop and smartphone app, and the ability to maintain your anonymity.
- PLUS regular group support video calls (optional attendance).
*You can book additional coaching calls each month if needed for reduced fee of $175 per hour.
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$295 per month, cancel anytime.
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Book an initial 30 minute or 1 hour consultation with Danielle (available above).
After your initial consultation you will be able to access the Coaching Subscription, or one of the Coaching Packages.
The Signature Coaching Package
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The Signature Coaching Package has been popular for many years, and for good reason! It includes;
• Six hours of 1:1 coaching, to be utilised within 12 months, including:
- 30 minute coaching calls
- 60 minute coaching calls
- 90 minute coaching calls
- 2 hour coaching calls
• Email support between calls.
• Access to the one-of-a-kind Stronger Braver Together Membership while your coaching package is active.
This includes:
Direct message support via The Membership app.
Access to information and resources.
Secure conversations with other women who ‘get it’ (if you choose to participate).
All of the above in a secure online support and resource hub, available via desktop and smartphone app, with the ability to maintain your anonymity - this ain’t no Facebook group!)
Regular group support video calls (optional attendance).
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• $1500 one-time payment, or a payment plan of $250 per fortnight.
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Book an initial 30 minute or 1 hour consultation with Danielle (available above).
After your initial consultation you will be able to access the Coaching Subscription, or one of the Coaching Packages.
The Complete Coaching Package
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The Complete Coaching Package provides unlimited access to 1:1 coaching for six months.
This means that for six months you will be able to book the following appointments as often as needed;
- 30 minute coaching calls
- 60 minute coaching calls
- 90 minute coaching calls
- 2 hour coaching calls
• You will also have access to the one-of-a-kind Stronger Braver Together Membership while your coaching package is active.
This includes:
Direct message support via The Membership app.
Access to information and resources.
Secure conversations with other women who ‘get it’ (if you choose to participate).
All of the above in a secure online support and resource hub, available via desktop and smartphone app, with the ability to maintain your anonymity - this ain’t no Facebook group!)
Regular group support video calls (optional attendance).
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$3750
Payable in full up front.
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Book an initial 30 minute or 1 hour consultation with Danielle (available above).
After your initial consultation you will be able to access the Coaching Subscription, or one of the Coaching Packages.
I understand what you’re dealing with.
I’ve been there, and done that.
News about EVP (Escaping Violence Payment)…
You may be able to use your EVP to cover the cost of working with me.
Need more information about the Escaping Violence Payment, including how and where to apply?
Preparing to meet with a Court Child Expert or Family Consultant?
The preparation of a Child Impact Report or Family Report is a common occurrence in most parenting matters that end up in the court system in Australia.
High-quality preparation is crucial, because the views and recommendations of the report writer can be very influential to your overall outcome.
Senior Judicial Registrars and Judges may put more weight on the views of report writers than what is contained in your affidavit, or the affidavit of your partner, when deciding on parenting arrangements (in situations where you and your former partner cannot come to an agreement).
If you are preparing to meet with a Court Child Expert, Single Expert Witness or Family Consultant I encourage you to book at least 2 x one hour coaching calls with me in order to plan and prepare.
“Child Impact Report came back 😭❤️….all I can say is: if you haven’t booked coaching with Danielle Black yet to prepare for yours DO IT NOW!!!!! Thank you Danielle, I honestly couldn’t have done this without you ❤️❤️🙌!!!”
What is a Strategic Separation & Divorce Coach, and why do you need one?
Even when it’s amicable, relationship breakdown is one of the most challenging things that people will ever face.
The stakes are even higher if you have been the victim of control or other forms and abuse, particularly if you are concerned that your ex is not going to let go of the control just because the relationship is over. (Unfortunately, continued attempts to control after separation are common).
After separation, it might feel like you are in a battle regarding money, property or even your kids.
I know how upsetting and frustrating it is when you want an ‘amicable’ and low-conflict separation, yet your former partner’s personality and behaviour gets in the way of reasonable conversation and compromise.
Having strategic, high-level support in the form of an experienced specialist Separation & Divorce Coach can increase your odds of achieving a positive outcome, and preserving your sanity in the process!
Working with me also means that you are less likely to give in to the demands of a controlling former partner just to ‘get it over with’. (Giving in to demands doesn’t end the conflict forever, it just compromises your outcome).
My role when supporting clients includes solution-focused and strategic support with expectations and mindset, and can also include guidance with parenting and co-parenting, preparation for things like mediation or court, and preparation for giving instructions to your lawyer.
Having an in-depth understanding of parenting matters, the legal/court process and high-level strategy when dealing with a controlling or ‘high-conflict’ person is something that separates me as a specialist Separation and Divorce Coach from other divorce coaches.
When your ex is controlling, and may have other high-conflict personality traits, it’s in your best interests, and that of your kids, to have a skilled and knowledgeable strategy partner on your team.
Need a better way to approach your separation, divorce and co-parenting struggles?
You’ve come to the right place.
My clients choose to work with me for a number of reasons, including:
• To optimise the outcome for themselves and their children.
• To learn how to best protect themselves and their children from further harm and trauma.
• To better understand the reality of the legal system, especially when it comes to parenting matters, and to manage their expectations.
• To understand and process the loss of their marriage or long-term relationship in a way that is transformative and meaningful.
• To learn how to co-parent with their ex-partner, set boundaries and minimise conflict.
• To improve their chances of achieving a fair financial settlement - that doesn’t cost them their sanity or the clothes off their back in the process.
• To take back their control and move forward with calm confidence and clarity.
Separating from, divorcing and co-parenting with a controlling high-conflict person is an experience that is difficult to put into words.
Having labels or diagnoses for your ex, like “narcissist”, “ADHD” or “bipolar” can sometimes help to describe his personality and behaviour patterns.
Yet, without specialised resources and support, having a label for your ex is just going to keep you stuck and focused on him.
…Exactly where he wants your focus to be.
These things can also keep you stuck making excuses for someone else’s poor behaviour.
Labelling or attempting to 'diagnose' your ex (with a personality disorder, mental illness or with ADHD) also has the potential to severely undermine your credibility, and may negatively impact your experience (and outcome) in mediation or court.
You may have already been endlessly seeking a better way of doing things - but have been left feeling overwhelmed and confused.
Searching for a “silver bullet”…or waiting it out, hoping that things will magically get better on their own…
This can lead to feeling paralysed by worry and confusion.
I’m going to tell you a secret...
It’s not your fault.
You were probably never taught about the red flags of controlling high-conflict people, and you definitely weren’t prepared for the nightmarish reality of separating from a controlling person with high-conflict personality traits and behaviours.
You probably aren’t aware of the realities of family law and the court system, including how your presentation can affect how you are viewed by the Judge, mediators, Court Child Experts and even your own lawyer.
You don’t yet know how to best approach things like mediation and court-ordered evaluations, when your credibility and the outcome for you and your children is on the line.
It can be a struggle to manage your ex-partners twisted version of reality - a series of lies that may paint you as the aggressor, (or as being ‘crazy’ or ‘paranoid’) and you don’t know how to best protect yourself from false allegations, such as; ‘alienation’ and ‘gatekeeping’ (two favourite accusations used by abusers and their lawyers).
Instead, you may be relying on your ex calming down, and becoming reasonable, if you give in to them, and be nice to them. They’ll calm down eventually right?
Wrong.
We can’t fully heal from our experiences until we know what we are healing from.
Get more understanding about what you are experiencing, and have access to a one-of-a-kind tool for documenting it, with the exclusive and comprehensive Post-Separation Abuse Checklist & eBook created by Danielle.
Level-up your understanding of post-separation abuse today.
Ready for a better way?
