Hi, I’m Danielle.
I’m who Australian women turn to when ‘conscious uncoupling’ doesn’t feel like an option.
I help women stay sane, and take back their control, when navigating separation, divorce and co-parenting with a controlling person
This includes helping my clients to optimise court outcomes, and their overall experience, when there are ongoing disputes.
Yes, it’s possible!
All divorces come with challenges.
…but high-conflict divorce is divorce on steroids.
With my own experiences, I put a lot of my energy into hiding and denying the reality of what I was experiencing.
It was a lonely and overwhelming place to be.
I felt powerless.
If you’re struggling right now, I get it. More than I can put into words. I’ve had many struggles navigating my own path in the past.
This is relevant to you because you should know a bit about who you choose to walk beside you on this journey.
I’m not just a professional with ‘book learning’.
I’m an experienced coach who also has lived experience with conflictual and controlling separation, divorce and co-parenting.
I have personally experienced;
Separation with a very young child.
Fifteen years of post-separation abuse and conflictual co-parenting.
Pressure to comply with a parenting plan that was not in my children’s best interests.
My child enduring ‘equal shared care’ (“50:50” care) for 10+ years.
Accusations of ‘parental alienation’ and attacks on my mental health as part of a legal narrative from a controlling former partner when I advocated for my child.
Mediation/dispute resolution.
Three years in the court system (including meetings with Court Child Experts).
Creating a wonderful new life for myself, including marrying a wonderful man and having more children, and;
Successfully creating safety, security and stability for myself and my children.
Who you choose to learn from
affects the path that your journey takes.
Many women dealing with a controlling former partner struggle alone, and in silence.
It takes a toll. It makes you start to wonder… “Am I the one with the problem?”
Walking on eggshells has just become a way of life.
…and honestly, people who haven’t lived it often
just don’t ‘get it’.
…Perhaps most challenging of all…
some believe the victim narrative of the abuser.
Controlling people often perpetrate post-separation abuse, relentlessly focused on their ex-partner target of blame, and they can be skilled at avoiding doing anything that is considered illegal.
This can make it challenging for victim-survivors to obtain support and be taken seriously by others.
Victim-survivors commonly describe feeling that they have their own personal terrorist.
Even if the abuser was the one to end the relationship.
If you don’t share children with a high-conflict person the safest thing to do is to cut off all direct contact.You didn’t choose what has happened to you, but you can choose what you do about it.
Navigating the ‘wilderness’ of separation and divorce with a controlling person can be such a lonely and isolating experience, but it doesn’t have to be.
You made it here. Just by being here you are taking action and choosing hope.
When you make the choice to rise up and take my hand, you won’t be alone.
You are so much more powerful and capable than you realise, and support is here for you right now.
I can help. Let’s do it together.
Ready to get started?